Generosity without a plan eventually becomes resentment wearing a polite smile.

The requests will come. School fees, a hospital bill, the cousin starting a business. Saying yes to everything is not kindness; it is an inability to hold a boundary.

Decide in advance what you can give. A figure, monthly, settled before the calls arrive. Then give it freely, without the private accounting that slowly poisons the gift. Generosity survives when it is budgeted.

A planned yes is warmer than a pressured one. And a clear no, given early and kindly, protects a relationship far better than a late, bitter yes.